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After
Ashley was buried, most of the flowers from the funeral were placed on
her grave. They created quite a large and colorful mound, a very fitting
tribute to such a bright and beautiful young lady. |
Prior
to the placement of the permanent headstone at Ashley's grave, this simple
funeral home grave marker designated the site of her burial place. |
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Below
are a couple of wide-view pictures of Mountain Peak Cemetery with Ashley's
headstone in the center of the picture. These views show the beauty and
peacefulness of this little country cemetery. |
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Below
are two pictures of the headstone marking Ashley's grave, the one on the
left showing the front of the headstone, the one on the right showing
the back. The headstone was designed by Susan and me, and was created
by our friend Perry Giles of Giles Monument Company in Waxahachie. The
South Ellis County 4-H Club, of which Ashley was a member, raised the
money to pay for the headstone, a project conceived by Ashley's fellow
4-H members. |
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Below
are close-ups of some of the design elements of Ashley's headstone, along
with explanations as to why these particular design elements were chosen. |
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Ashley's
Portrait. This portrait
was hand-etched into the black headstone by an artist who specializes
in this type of work. We wanted to have Ashley's picture on the stone
to make it very personal and special. The etching was done from the black-and-white
professional headshot which has become one of the two "defining"
images of Ashley -- the other being the purple sunglasses picture taken
just a few months prior to her initial cancer diagnosis. |
Note: The following
pictures are not clickable. |
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Epitaph:
"Her absence hurts so much because her presence brought so much joy."
I originally coined this phrase (with the word "his" in the
place of "her") in an attempt to describe the pain and sense
of loss I was experiencing when my father died of cancer in 1989. When
Ashley died, this phrase came back to me and seemed to be a very appropriate
expression of our grief at her death. Susan and I felt it would make a
fitting epitaph for her headstone. |
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Single
long-stemmed rose. The
rose represents the rose from the classic tale "Beauty and the Beast".
For some reason, Ashley became especially fond of this story. We own the
Disney animated version on video. Ashley saw the Disney Broadway play
twice, the second time with our whole family just three weeks prior to
her death. After watching the play, Justin bought Ashley a souvenir rose
from the gift shop at the theater. I mounted that rose above the door
to her room when we arrived back home. |
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College
Street Church of Christ Youth Group Logo.
I am the youth minister for the College Street church, so Ashley and Justin
have been around the youth group and participated in youth group activities
for most of their lives. Ashley had been a member of the youth group for
two-and-a-half years prior to her death. Ashley always had a deep love
for the Lord and His church, and was baptized into Christ just two weeks
prior to her death. |
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4-H
Logo. Ashley had been
a member of the South Ellis County 4-H Club for four years, and was an
active member at the time of her death. Ashley's friend Kaysi Mulkey got
Ashley involved in 4-H shortly after Ashley was initially diagnosed with
cancer, as a way to help provide a diversion from all the yucky aspects
of dealing with cancer. Ashley began raising and showing pigs for her
4-H project, and absolutely loved it. 4-H became a huge and important
part of her life. As mentioned above, it was her fellow 4-H club members
who came up with the idea to raise the necessary funds to provide the
headstone for Ashley's grave. We are forever indebted to this wonderful
group of incredible and talented young people. |
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Future
Farmers of America (FFA) Logo.
When Ashley entered Waxahachie High School just a few months prior to
her death, she joined FFA. It was a natural transition from 4-H membership,
because the two organizations uphold many of the same values and participate
in many of the same types of activities. A few weeks before Ashley's death,
three of the Waxahachie High School FFA officers came to our house to
deliver Ashley's FFA jacket, which had been rush-ordered so that it could
be presented to her as soon as possible. She cherished that jacket, and
we displayed it at her funeral. The FFA officers served as pallbearers
at Ashley's funeral, all wearing their FFA jackets. |
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"I
Love New York" Logo.
Ashley loved New York. She had traveled there twice, during the summers
of 2000 and 2001, with a group of students and teachers from Waxahachie
Junior High School. It was during one of those trips that she first saw
the Broadway production of Disney's "Beauty and the Beast".
After her cancer relapse, when a wonderful benefactor named Mr. Harper
offered Ashley the opportunity for our family to travel anywhere she wanted
to go, it didn't take her long to decide on New York. Three weeks prior
to Ashley's death, our family flew first class to New York City, and spent
four incredible days in The Big Apple. We created many unforgettable memories
on that trip that will forever live in our hearts. We have all come to
love New York. |
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Drama
symbol. Ashley loved
drama. She was involved in One-Act Play in junior high, and was looking
forward to participating in One-Act Play in high school as well. As already
mentioned, she enjoyed the opportunity to watch Broadway plays in New
York on three different occasions. The professional headshot which has
become her "signature portrait", was the result of an attempt
to "break into" professional acting. Drama and acting were truly
one of her passions. |
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Music
symbol. Ashley loved
music. She loved to listen to music; she loved to sing music. She grew
up singing church songs and "youth group" songs. She was a member
of the Waxahachie Junior High School choir, and took piano lessons for
a couple of years. |
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Camp
Esperanza Logo. Camp
Esperanza is a "cancer camp" that Ashley attended during the
summers of 2000 and 2001. She really enjoyed her two summers at Camp Esperanza,
and made a lot of new friends there. At each of the two sessions that
Ashley attended, each camper received a pillow case with the camp logo
printed on it. Throughout the week, campers would sign each other's pillow
cases, and those pillow cases became a cherished keepsake. During Ashley's
last few month's of life, she had her camp pillow with her constantly.
She slept on it and used it as a cushion in her wheelchair. Camp Esperanza
made a big difference in Ashley's life. Esperanza is the Spanish word
for "hope". |
As you look at each of
the above pictures, I hope you notice the incredible craftsmanship and
attention to detail that went into the creation of Ashley's headstone.
We are forever and deeply indebted to our dear friend Perry Giles for
his loving personal touch and hard work in creating this beautiful memorial.
Perry went above and beyond the call of duty, and did everything within
his power to make sure that Ashley's headstone was a fitting memorial
to her incredible life, and that it looked exactly like we wanted it
to look (even though the design and the amount of intricate artwork
went far beyond what goes into most headstones).
Thank you, Perry, for
caring so much and working so hard to make this lasting memorial to
our precious little girl so very special. You are an incredibly gifted
man, and that gift has touched our lives deeply and permanently.
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